Many of us don't listen to other people.
Instead, we just think and wait for our
turn to express our own opinion.
Take a step back and look at your
colleagues conversations. It's likely
it'll look more like two monologues
where everyone tells about themsel.
The cure for it is active listening.
It's a very powerful skill. It brings
people closer, builds trust, and helps
people to open up. Here are five steps
on how to do it.
One, stay focused. Keep natural eye
contact. Don't judge and be patient.
Two, really listen. Don't think about
your similar experiences and what you
should tell next. Three, allow for
periods of silence. Wait till the other
person speaks again.
Four, from time to time, repeat the
other person's words or paraphrase it
back to them. It will reassure that you
really listen and encourage them to open
up. Five, understand the emotions behind
the words. When you paraphrase, also try
to express the other feelings back to
them.
Active listening is rather difficult and
can be more tiring than talking itself.
Be prepared for long conversations. On
the other hand, you will gain trust and
people will simply like to spend time
with you. You will also understand them
much better. At the beginning, try it
with your spouse or a good friend.
You'll see how great they feel after
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